Link: http://www.marieclaire.com/celebrity/news/a16126/michelle-obama-and-charlize-theron-educated-girls/. Please check it out :)
And why the hell suddenly I feel the need to post an article about it? That, my friend, is because I coincidentally just had a conversation with my mom about it several nights ago. Well, not exactly about the article or about why smart girls don't need stupid boys, but more like about how women these days can bee too independent, or too smart, or too educated for their own good. And sadly, that was coming from my mom. Let me share a bit of a story about it.
I don't know about the other mom, but my mom, despite being a kind, loving, energetic and sometimes inappropriate in a good way (or not) lady, can be a bit too old fashioned in some certain ways. Especially when it comes to her thoughts about how things should be run or how someone should do something. Maybe it's a traditional Asian mom thing? Or maybe it's caused by her living in a different era or being part of the previous generation before me? Or maybe I'm the one who's plainly wrong? I have no idea. Anyway, the conversation started randomly, as usual, when we talked about some random things and ended with a hot topic. My mom stated something about women better don't have a too high education or too financially independent, because therefore they would not be interested in getting married to a "good" man and how they would intimidate the hell out of them (if not scare them to death). Most of the men population would not be interested in dating such kind of women. My mom's favorite words when it comes to that matter is: "Women actually don't have to be as tough as men, it's actually men's job to work hard and prove themselves to the world, because in the end, women will be married anyway, and then there will be children, and women naturally should depend on their husbands to provide for the family.
Seriously, Mom?
To be honest, that was hella sexist and discouraging as hell. You don't say. But thankfully I am no one to be easily discouraged. And then she continued with pointing out examples and 'case studies', namely some women in extended family of mine, who graduated from top universities, or not so top but quite good ones, have stable jobs with good amount of money to follow, who can take her family (their mom and dad, of course) to vacation whenever and wherever they want to. Sounds like a life to die for, doesn't it? According to my mom (and their moms too - information by my mom, obviously): NO. But why??? Well, because they're still single. They haven't found their significant other, let alone got married, and start a family at the age of early 30s, and the moms kind of blame their daughters' ability to be super well educated and be financially successful for that. That's what I call stupidity at its worst. Another one, whenever I told her stories about some friends who pursue their career boldly, or about some of my friends who work really hard to earn money just because they want to (of course they are female), my mom like to reply with: Aiyaaa... What for? Ladies shouldn't be working too hard like that. If it's a man, then it's a totally different story. It's sad and depressing. I know, trust me. Even I didn't earn her blessing when I mentioned I wanted to study language abroad for a year or two. That happened 2 years after I graduated. You know what she said to me? "I don't think that's necessary. By the time you finish your study, you will be 26 and unemployed. You're already too old for a woman to go back to school. I'm afraid you won't get hired after that.". *BRB flipping tables (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻*
But, before you throw your anger and disappointment to my mom and blame her, let me tell you this: She actually meant well. Mothers always do. She just don't really understand how things work nowadays. I'm so much more upset and angrier with whoever create such unfair and stupid system. Instead of being discouraged by my mom's attitude, I'd like to explain and show her how things work right now. Little by little. Because just so you know, elder people can be resistant to change, and it's our job as the newer generation to open their mind and enlarge their perspective. I mean, it can't be guaranteed that we won't be like them toward our next generation when we are older, right? :P
Anyway, back to the real topic. So, should women limit their independence, education, and intelligence? The answer is ABSOLUTELY NO. Are you crazy?? NEVER in a million year. There's no such things as too smart, too independent and too educated. Not just for women actually, it should applies to all humankind. Ladies, why bother thinking about men who dislike or does not support or are intimidated by smart/independent/educated/powerful women? Don't you feel like he's kind of trying to hold you back from going bigger in life? If you happen to encounter a man who discourages, limits or anything but support you and your goal to be a better, smarter, stronger person, then he's obviously not worth it. Because never forget...
WHO RUN THE WORLD?
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